Building a relationship with self

~ Today, I will give importance to how I feel, what I believe, and what is interesting to me ~

Touchstones – Daily Meditations for Men 

Addiction has compromised one’s sense of self. Our values, our belief’s, and any healthy relationship we may have had – is completely lost and lays in ruins. Recovery is the journey in self-discovery. It no longer is about what what others are or are not doing for us as individuals. It is more of what we are and are not able to do for ourselves at the present moment.

The May 21 daily meditation from Touchstones for Men shares this insight:

In recovery, we resumed our emotional and spiritual development where it had stopped. It is liberating to know that how we feel about something is important. We can follow our interests and pursue our commitments. We need not be ruled by others’ feelings. With our regular pattern of taking inventory, praying, and meditating, we are developing a relationship with ourselves which builds character and maturity.

We start off recognizing our need for something greater than ourselves, more powerful than our own addiction. The need of self-discovery is probably the most important component to a healthy and self-sufficient recovery lifestyle. This leads, hopefully, to a fully equipped, healthy, meaningful life where there is purpose.

Learning to balance and understand our own emotions; recognizing the reality and impact our addiction has had on our own lives; as well as the lives of those around us: we come to realize how deficient we are in the following areas:

  • Emotional and Mental stability
  • Relational stability
  • Physical and Nutritional health and wellness
  • Financial Stability
  • Spiritual Stability

Moving into the recovery process, we take up our journey by learning how to focus on living in the present moment. We break through all our fears, come to terms and accept our past mistakes and failings, and lay better (and more formidable) foundations. We transition from toxic relationships to cultivation of healthier relationships.

And, cultivating healthier relationships means we focus on discovering who we are. This happens as we focus on:

  • Discovery of our own values and beliefs
  • Establishing healthy boundaries
  • Accepting, surrendering, and forgiving
  • Becoming flexible and open-minded
  • Meeting our own self where we are presently at

Recovery is not an easy process. However, it is a hopeful one. It takes real commitment, energy, time, and hope and faith. The more we strive to discover who we truly are, the healthier we may become. And, the best part of this is that we are not alone in this process. There are many others who have made their own journey, have come to discover who they are as individuals, and have developed and maintained a healthier lifestyle.

Wherever you may find yourself, always remember that it begins with having a deep, intimate and healthy relationship with who we truly are. Not what we were, or had become because of addiction, and, definitely not what we may desire to become. What matters the most is what we are doing in the present moment for our own health and well-being.


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